Willing Wednesday!

Responsibility – “Responding- to- your- Ability”

Its responsibility Wednesday, and time for a reality check about life’s unfair provisions, and those things that we complain about on a daily basis. Those things that make us unhappy with our family and forefathers who’s resulting actions caused us to inherit horrible genes, lack of money, poor manners, lack of mentors, or any other undesirable situation. This may sound really insensitive and harsh, but the reality of life is that ultimately, you are still responsible for your life, without exception, and even in its very precarious condition. Your abilities may not measure in length or depth in comparison to others that you meet or compare yourself to. So, why measure at all?   There will always be someone bigger and better, and that’s perfectly fine as long as you represent your “Absolute Best”. That best places you ahead of the game in any regard, so discard the pedestal syndrome, because everyone has issues, some just more pronounced than others.  Learn to love yourself, and embrace growth! Furthermore, looking from the outside in, to compare yourself to someone else’s success is naive and unhealthy.  Although you may think that you want their cars, homes, careers, and trophy wife (or to be one), it remains a mystery as to if you would even want to do what it takes to sustain it!  The word for this week is “Epiphany”

Letting go, without giving up on those you love. (Powerful & Helpful Tips!)

Letting someone go, simply means that you relinquish your grip or hold, while setting them free to move and live as they insist. Giving up, on the other hand, means to abandon, make a mental or verbal declaration that the person or situation is incurable,  insolvent, or hopeless. The two are definitely very different. So how do you put these matters into perspective? Let’s say that there is some one in your life who is simply not productive, basically they are not trying, won’t allow anyone to help them, or simply don’t believe that they have the fortitude to succeed.  Maybe they are even self-destructive. Does this situation warrant you hanging in there with them, or should you walk away?

Officially giving up on someone you love is almost impossible to do.  Why? Because even when you physically put distance between you and that person, in most cases, they are still occupying your mind, heart, and emotions.  Therefore, in that case, you haven’t actually given up, but maybe you have let them go, which may be preferably in some cases. There are a very few (and I mean a few) very egregious situations where people really do give up on loved ones because a very fine and sensitive line has been crossed (especially the dangerous lines). Those are very different from the common and problematic situations or relationships mentioned here.  Giving up is not easy, and it certainly should be the last line of defense with those you love and care about. 

Letting people go, simply means that you step aside to allow that person to see who they really are, determine if they need and want your help, determine if they are capable of recovering without your help, and finally to determine if they want your assistance re-emerging themselves back to the productive citizen that they are capable of being. Letting go may also mean that your pain can be severe, but that pain is far less damaging than giving up altogether on someone who you really just want to let go for the purposes of helping them, and yourself.  When faced with giving up, or letting go, you should understand that the nuances of each relationship are different, with possible damaging effects that only you can determine is in your best interest. Because every situation is so different, only you can determine if giving up, or letting go is a decision that you can live with while understanding that your mental, physical, and emotional safety is paramount.


Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.
– George Edward Woodberry

What happens when we lose those we love?

Losing people that we love can be devastating to our lives. People leave our lives for many reasons, and not always because they transitioned from this earthly life. There are also separations, divorces, and broken friendships. It takes time to recover from the loss of those who we can no longer touch, feel, or see. Although you won’t have the luxury of enjoying their physical presence, you still have the good memories, and those are a permanent fixture in your psyche, and ones that can’t be taken away. It has engraved itself into your mind’s memory, and is retrievable at your request. Even if you don’t believe in the eternal existence of heaven, or that you will someday be reunited with your loved ones, embrace the theory that good memories are powerful and allow your evocation to comfort you doing times of pain.

Although people in your life who have never lost a close loved one may be able to sympathize with you, they can’t truly empathize with you, it’s impossible. Only you stand in the shoes of experiencing the loss and devastation of your loved ones, and although with good intentions, those who haven’t loss someone that they love and adore, can’t ultimately understand the pain.

When you find yourself becoming depressed or lonely because you lost someone you love, reconnect with those powerful memories and the joyful times, get a good cry, and smile as you let go of that moment of pain.

Remember you get to tell your mind, body, and soul how it will react to life’s circumstances. Because the pain is very real, it will truly never diminish, but knowing how to address the pain helps. Don’t isolate yourself during these times, and it’s very important to remember “There is wisdom in the multitude of counselors and friends.”

Be Blessed!

There’s no math involved when using positive energy! (Negative people lowers your life’s stock value)

WORDS, they can make or break you, build you up, or destroy your peace. The key to maintaining positive energy is by keeping negative words to a minimum. There’s no math involved, simply wake up in the morning, and remind yourself to crush negativity, and utilize the power of positive words. Sounds elementary, but even science has proven that thinking positive is the healthy and powerful resource that your body and mind needs, and they are right at your fingertips.

Anxiety can run rogue through your life, inserting fear, frustration, and doubt, especially during difficult times. Remember positivity starts with understanding that you are directly impacted by those who are the closest to you. That means spending time with people who don’t value good conversation and who abuse words will eventually affect your spirit, and you can certainly count on a digression of motivation. Although television, radio and the internet have proven vital to keeping current on world news, take a break or two during the week, and grab a good book, read to replenish your spirit. Remember negative in negative out. It’s all relative!

Positive words are free, and using them daily places you in the driver’s seat to prosperity. Embracing this theory also gives you the edge on winning, and there’s no substitution to maintaining a clear mind and positive attitude; which is solely in your control.

Syncing your brain with your heart!

Try living life without your brain, or suffering from a broken heart! Your brain is the smart one, while your heart can boast unyielding and unfair emotions, fears and doubt that can cripple your happiness. There is a three day minimum for putting your heart to the test. What that means is stop, listen, and test the theory of “brain vs heart”. Your heart doesn’t measure danger, neither does it create road maps for your life’s decisions, or if that relationship should be ditched before it sucks you into the abyss. Your brain, on the other hand, has this indescribable memory and wisdom that places yield, stop, and caution signs along the way to remind you to use your “Emotional Intelligence” and not to depend solely on your heart. It’s wonderful to fancy through life simply following your heart, but when the body sustains trauma, the first organ that the medical professionals check is the “Heartbeat”. So……. keep a close eye on that vulnerable but essential metabolic leader, and don’t let the “beats and flutters” go unchecked. Remember to sync your heart (emotional intelligence) with self and social awareness, testing the authenticity of everyone and everything, being willing to walk away from dangerous/ unhealthy relationships, and remember to protect your heart from the dark side of emotional sabotage! When faced with love and other life decisions, remember to sync your brain with your heart, it’s the beginning of wisdom that will ultimately prove invaluable!

Why your own words “Determines who you become”

Most people may not know that words are like little invisible torpedo’s that jet-set around your world, creating moments of success or failure. Words are powerful and destructive, and although you can’t see them they are very much there, waiting to accomplish or destroy your purpose, it’s all relative and has everything to do with what comes out of your mouth. Think about words the same way you do the air that you breathe. While it can not be emulated, collected, or seen, it determines the temperature, your height caliber and even how you inhale. Finding the right words is essential to finding the right path. People who speak words of faith, affirmation, positivity, and grace, are the same people who receive them. On the other hand, those who muster up harsh words of defeat, anger, and doubt, eventually meet that destination as well. There’s no magic potion or secret solution that you can summons to fix your life, it starts and ends with your words, its the explosion of expectation, and the fruition of the triumph that manifests itself, impacting your life either positively, or negatively. Speaking powerful words is the absence of negativity that meets optimism which grows your enthusiasm, and buries the very absorption of what you have become accustomed to saying! Words are life in volume form, keep yours intact and make them a living organism, not a whirlwind of imprisonment.

The power of choosing the right words in any situation, creates a positive outcome in any regard. Graceson Ellison 2020

The truth about why “People Hate Mondays”

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Monday signifies the beginning of the work week for most people, and the dreaded day back to work that most people hate.  Why? Simply put it forces the average person to fundamentally shift their brain from “Leisure” to “Labor”. That means that you reach a level where you begin to measure what you “like to do and enjoy” compared to what you “have to do”. The differences however are only slightly opposite, as either way you need a plan. The subtle but impactful differences are that one involves not thinking or  planning to do anything productive, while the other institutes strategic planning to be productive at something that is meaningful. That means that without a plan, you basically are open to fail.  You have heard the saying “No plan is a plan to fail” Well that is true!  Friday for most people means that you can let your hair down, not be accountable to your boss, and not have to hit the snooze button right?  By shifting that mindset over just a bit, you combine doing what you love passionately, with working hard to assure that your destiny is reached and in the process doing it with inspiration and purpose.

Ask any millionaire if they hate Monday, and I will assure you the answer will be “no”, rather they love every day of the week equally because it provides another opportunity to build their empire.  Even if your empire is small, it doesn’t matter, and certainly doesn’t determine if you lose or win. Winning requires tenacity and dedication, and the re-programming of your brain not to digress just because it’s the weekend.

What does all this means? If we incorporate perseverance, commitment, and purpose with being completely resolute in our endeavors to succeed, then we lose the Monday blues and turn it into Manifestation Monday.  That is why most people who engage other successful people or spend time with them crave success.  That simply means that “Success begets Success.” Try taking the time to treat every day as if it’s the only day of the week that you have to achieve your goals, and you will find yourself with a winning ‘Attitude that will determine your Altitude.”


How your “Attitude” affects your “Life”

“Life is a beautiful message in a bottle. Everyone has one, you only need to break the glass to get to your dreams”.

Graceson Ellison

How do we maximize our God-given potential? It takes the right attitude, self-motivation, being in the good company of great people, and understanding there are no limits just because someone else said there are. I’ve seen college football players with the use of only one arm blast into the NFL as a standout, Olympic winners with no legs, even those who lost their sight play the piano. What that means is true motivation comes from within, and lives to tell the story of success. It also means you have to guard your words, thoughts, and dreams so that the spoiler won’t interrupt the flow. Believe it or not, it all begins with positive energy, positive thinking, and drive. No one gets to tell you it’s over, or that your chances to win are limited because you aren’t the picture of perfection (no one is). Coasting along in life takes you much longer to get to your destination than powering through, embracing and giving inspiration. Remember every day gives new opportunities and new graces. Use them like there is no tomorrow, and that is how you find your true purpose. Always remember this concept- “Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it” (Charles R. Swindoll) so change your attitude, and your Altitude will rise!!

Happy Wednesday (Hump Day) Ever wonder where it originated?

It’s fun to learn new facts on a daily basis, so here are some fun facts:

The name Wednesday derives from two mighty but distinct gods. The Old English word for Wednesday indicates that the day was named for the Germanic god Woden. In Romance languages, the name is derived from the Roman god Mercury. (For example, Wednesday is mercredi in French and miercuri in Romanian.) Woden (also known as Odin) and Mercury have  been associated since Scandinavian and Roman cultures crossed paths. Under Woden supervision, the earth and sky were created from the dead body of a giant named Ymir. Woden also created the first man and woman from an ash tree and an alder. As if fashioning the human race wasn’t enough, Woden also established the laws of the universe.

Mercury was the messenger to the gods, along with being the patron of science, the arts, travelers and athletes. Today, he is one of the most widely recognized gods. Usually, he’s depicted wearing a winged helmet and sandals.

Starting around 1965, Wednesday began being referred to as hump day. Smack dab in the middle of the traditional work week, arriving at Wednesday symbolizes that we’ve made it over the hump and the weekend is in sight.

Happy Wednesday, and Awesome Thursday is on the way!!!

Why do we “secretly” want to live beyond our means?

Keeping up with the Jones’s is a matter of principle, a matter of mind over matter, and simply having the need to associate with those who appear to live in the lap of luxury or those who appear to fit into the social upper crust of society. It’s a dangerous game, a game that can land you flat broke, in bankruptcy, or miserable every single day trying to figure out how to pay bills you can’t afford, to impress people who probably don’t even notice, and to satisfy your inner cravings of needing social affirmation.

I learned very early in my adult life to rid myself of the errant desire to fake my way through life and to remember to climb up the staircase where I was purposed to climb, and not the crystal stairs where only “Jimmy Choo” shoes are allowed. The unnecessary stresses of living on credit cards, or borrowing from Peter to pay Paul is a crisis that deserves a counseling session. Your friends are people who accept you for who you are, where you live, where you work, your size, gender, ethnicity, and whatever else were assigned to your life.

There are people in my life that are millionaires, and others who make under the poverty level. I love and support them all, and have learned to respect the hard work that they have put in to acquire their wealth and others who work just as hard but have acquired very little. I understand and respect their journey, and can do so without being envious of their accomplishments, and I certainly don’t look down my nose at those friends and family who are in the struggle. There are numbers in between every other number, which is how people and their status ranks. What that means is you should be inspired by the success but don’t compare it to yours. It’s apples and oranges, and not the same game.

Money is certainly a valuable asset in this life, and not having any sucks! But what sucks more than anything is transgressing against yourself, and becoming who someone else wants you to be. Being great with money management, saving, investing, and being an overall budgeteer is awesome. Living your life vicariously through friends and family is not!! Take a step back, and remember one very important fact. It’s not just “How much money you make, but how much your money makes for you”. Be true to yourself, and be inspired by others, not a duplication of them or their lifestyles.


Happy New Year 2020!!

“Shackling your Soul” and not realizing it!

Your words, yes your own words can make or break you! They speak of trouble, fear, bitterness and crazed deceit. It happens when you least expect it, and every time you speak, your words create a sound barrier around you to either “Shackle” your soul, or to “Create” your astonishing world. It takes practice, and no one can do it for you. It’s like your personal life blue print that is designed by the ink from your tongue, and the inspiration from your soul. Sounds rudimentary right? Maybe, but understanding and remembering that you are the author of your happiness, and only you can tell your story is the key that unlocks the door to your massive triumph. Your journey begins everyday with reflection, gratefulness, purpose, and ultimately creation. American Express said it best “Don’t leave home without it”, Think about your soul, your success, your prosperity, and never leave home without being properly clothed in releasing your happiness and nurturing your soul so that you can accomplish exactly what you believe. It’s all relative but it must first start with your WORDS!!! Happy New Year!