Fear is indeed emotional unleashing that attempts to entrap your dreams and imprison your prosperity. Life was never intended to be unimpeded because some obstacles builds character, sustainability, and integrity. Therefore, feeling afraid doesn’t mean you are weak, it means you are human. Whether your fear is imagined, or real, trepidation is an opportunity in its subtle form of power waiting to be discovered. Don’t allow fear to impale you, rather ignite your inner beast, and just refuse to be a flat liner. It’s your life, live it to the fullest, and don’t let fear paralyze your dreams!
I’m sure you have heard the saying that “hindsight is 20/20”. The Past, the awesome opportunity for mistakes, mishaps, bad relationships, failures, and best intentions gone bad to be buried, and never heard from again. But wait…. does that really mean you are free from the inevitable memories that make you cringe, the painful ones that fill your heart with discomfort? Unfortunately not! Your past means exactly that, a series in your life that is behind you, and certainly behind your new conquest and goals. Think about the shadows of your past like a ship that sails into the abyss. Upon first glance, the ship is overwhelming, a massive creation that appears almost impossible to imagine how it is navigated or controlled. But as the sun digresses, and the waves push forward, the ship slowly but methodically disappears, and eventually as it passes and moves out of sight, it can no longer be seen. It’s intimidating presence, is only a memory! The shadows of your past, are much like that concept, and only requires you to mentally and emotionally relinquish the memories, and embrace your newest and eclectic style of disarming your painful reminiscence of the impressions that have impaled you. So, although you may have fragments of your past that have chiseled away at your peace, that ship has sailed, and you are on to the generous opportunity called LIFE. Remember all is not lost as shadows also encompass partial light, which is a not so distant memory that the road best traveled is the one that taught you the most!
Life is about setting and meeting goals, and everyone has a unique gift. Your character and personality is distinctively exclusive from everyone else. Starting every day with a conquest that blows away the competition is how you win! Your life must speak a story, and yes the version that you crafted and designed specifically for the purposes of bringing into existence your creativity, brilliance, and production of success. It’s okay if your success looks different from others. Be original, authentic, and organic, and let that inspiration launch you from a place of normality to Atypical! Your individualism comes alive when you determine that you will breathe life into your dreams, and even if that means your “Toast is Black” that ‘s okay because your organic chemical make-up was never intended to mirror someone else’s. Be yourself, be creative, be graceful, be strategic, but don’t forget to keep your vision alive!
Dear Graceson – I am 9 months away from being married to the love of my life, although as difficult as it is to admit, I am having second thoughts. My Fiancé’ and I went to high school together and were on and off again for about 5 years. Finally, we settled down and decided to get married. I adore his sense of humor, intellect, financial stability and loyalty. But his outlook on race makes me cringe and he is an admitted racist. I am not racist and respect people from every ethnic background and walk of life. I wouldn’t say I don’t see color, but it simply doesn’t affect the way I respect people and their culture. My Fiancé’, on the other hand, believes that the Caucasian race is superior to others, and I don’t know if I can disregard this conflict that he and I share. I am wondering if this will work itself out, or if I should end the engagement and move on with my life. Mixed up in Ohio.
Dear Mixed Up: Your heart is clearly telling you that your Fiancé’s racism is more than just a subtle difference in opinions, but rather something far more sinister. There is not much to say here, other than when a person shows you who they are, believe them. This conflict that you find yourself in is more than a difference of where you will go on your honeymoon, this is an integrity issue, that will clearly compromise your morals and virtues. Let the racist go find a woman who shares his twisted and anachronistic views, and let destiny send you a man that will compliment your sincerity. Best Wishes
Life can appear unfair at times. Feeling like you weren’t born in the right family, from the wrong part of town, not enough money, too fat, not skinny enough, wrong color eyes, or a host of other nuances. Whatever causes your boat to sink you must dig deep and find your value. Live by who you are not what you aren’t. Life is tricky and its idiosyncratic elements can be all over the place by virtue of your own thoughts. Your brain never rest, bouncing up and down, sideways and parallel to what makes sense. That’s what makes your “life inspiration” your responsibility, and your passion. Live your life in the work mode, fantastic, crazy, out of control, refusal to lose concept. Wake up breathing hope and aspiration, dream big, and flip out on the obstacles that have your life in shambles. Wake up your inspiration, and get your power juices flowing to the winner’s table and reject any resolution that doesn’t result in your inspiration overtaking emotional deflation!